TADB 011: Reducing Tension in Discipleship

There are aspects of the Christian life that are paradoxical, causing tension when we can’t resolve them.  As a rule we tend to polarize what we cannot harmonize, emphasizing one over the other, or promoting one and minimizing the other.  Whole denominations have been built around this type of tension.  Although some tension is unavoidable, we can also create tension by unnecessary polarization.

Remember the old question, “Did you walk to school or carry your lunch?”  It’s humorous because it proposes a choice that is unnecessary.  You may need to choose between walking to school and riding your bike, but you don’t need to choose between how you travel to school and what you have for lunch.  You can easily do both.  The tension is unnecessary.

An example of this kind of created tension in discipleship is the polarization of the concepts of grace and effort.  Somewhere along our Christian journey we heard the question, “Are you going to live by grace or effort?”  Rather than considering it a humorous, irrelevant question, we think the two concepts are incompatible and mutually exclusive.  We take it seriously and think we have to choose between them.  When we polarize two different concepts (e.g. belief and action), the tension is unnecessary and ultimately detrimental since both are biblical and essential to our journey of discipleship.

Grace vs. effort is a polarization of attitudes (motives) vs. action (behavior).  In our relationship with Christ, we need to understand that these two are not mutually exclusive.  We certainly must choose whether we are going to base our acceptance with God on his grace or our merit.  We cannot do both simultaneously.   However, effort is an action not an attitude.  If our effort (behavior) comes from an attitude of earning God’s acceptance, then we need to change our attitude not necessarily our actions.

A friend of mine was recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes.  He told me that it was a wake-up call as to how and why he ate. Before the diagnosis he lived to eat.  Now he eats to live.  The solution for diabetes was not to stop eating but to change his motivation behind eating.  In our culture we eat primarily as entertainment and comfort – not real healthy motivations.  The solution to a healthy body is not to quit eating but to reprogram our minds as to why and what we eat.

Effort is a major theme in discipleship on the resurrection side of the cross.  We are told to work, train, do, put off, put on, etc.  These actions are not competing with grace but are complementary to it.  When we polarize them, we create unnecessary tension and destroy the dynamic partnership captured in Phil 2:12-13.

So then, my beloved, just as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your salvation [effort]with fear and trembling; for it is God who is at work in you [grace], both to will and to work for His good pleasure.

If we don’t start with grace as the foundation for our acceptance with God, our effort (or work) can become a source of merit.  We need to understand at a heart level that we are accepted by God on the merits of Christ and not our own.  This is a counter-cultural reality that constantly needs to be affirmed if we are to follow Christ on the resurrection side of the cross.  But having accepted the grace foundation, we need to work hard because our effort now serves a whole new purpose.

If we are doing what Scripture commands, but from an attitude of earning, then we need to change our attitude not the actions.  Grace is in tension with earning, but not with effort.  Discipleship, based on grace, is described as a walk, run, race, even warfare, requiring diligence, discipline, and perseverance all of which are sustained by the Holy Spirit.

Along your discipleship journey, you may slip back into the default thinking of doing what is right in order to gain God’s acceptance.  It is a pattern that is not easy to break.  At times you may think, for example, that by serving or memorizing Scripture, or obeying a command that God now owes you some answers to prayer or maybe a little credit next time you slip up.  When this happens, review your grace foundation.  Remind yourself of who you are in Christ and why.  Then reengage in working out your salvation from a different motivation. (I will discuss maturity and motivations in later blogs).

For reflection:

Are there spiritual truths you find difficult to harmonize?  To what extent do you polarize them?  Is the polarization necessary?

 

 

TADB 010: What’s on the Whiteboard?

The timeout is a critical tool for winning ball games.  In basketball each team is allowed a limited amount.  A coach calls a timeout for a variety of reasons:

  • Thwart the momentum of the opposing team
  • Refocus his players
  • Set up a special offense or defense
  • Give his players a rest
  • Overcome the crowd noise to send in instructions

Regardless of the reason, when a coach calls a timeout, the players huddle around him with their undivided attention.  No one is on their cell phone, visiting with the cheerleaders, or talking with their friends.  A coach has 60 seconds to get his idea across.  Often he explains his plan visually on a little whiteboard so the players can see as well as hear what is said.

Jesus modeled and taught how to live in relationship with the Father.  The Gospels tell us that Jesus frequently responded to the Father’s “timeout”.  One example is when Jesus took a timeout with his Father in the midst of a very successful healing ministry.  The result was an entirely new “play/plan” (Mark 1:32-39).

I consider my daily appointment with God (AWG) to be like a coach’s timeout.  It is a few minutes each day when I give my Coach my undivided attention.  I have found that the first thing in the morning before there is too much crowd noise, is the best time for me to hear his voice and understand what he is writing on the whiteboard.

I will know his directions when I allow Christ to speak his Word into my life on a consistent basis.  Some days I feel like I’m playing offense and other days I am on the defense.  But each day I need his play.

My AWG is not a time for training or long explanations but for words of encouragement and clarity.  There are other times when I need to practice and train.  The AWG is not a time for extended Bible study; that’s a different discipline.  But each day I need a fresh word from my Coach.

A simple plan to see what’s on the whiteboard looks like this:

  • Refocus

Honestly admit the current state of your heart and mind.  “This morning I feel like I could climb a mountain; I’m so pumped!”  OR “Right now my anxiety indicator is off the charts.  I know I should not be anxious, but that is where I am.”

Next refocus by reviewing some of the portraits of Christ that hang in the gallery of your mind.  Finish the statement, “Lord, today I acknowledge that you are my ………..”  (Shepherd, Friend, Shelter, Healer, etc.)

  • Read

As you go through a book of the Bible, read a short passage such as a paragraph, several verses, or maybe a chapter.  But keep it short.  Read it over several times.

  • Reflect

Think about the meaning of what you just read.  Asking questions such as what, why, how, and when, can help in this process.  And most important, ask how this is relevant to your life.

  • Record

Write down your main thought in a journal…keep a log of what you hear God saying.  This is your whiteboard.  Journaling clarifies and focuses your mind as you ask the Lord, “What is the one idea that you want me to reflect on today?  What’s the play of the day?”

  • Respond

Pray back what you hear Christ’s Spirit saying to your heart.  Prayer makes it a dialogue.  Take what you have heard for yourself and pray it for others as God brings them to mind.  Pray the “play” into reality.

You will need to initially give some structure to your AWG if it is to become a spiritual habit.  Pick a time and place where you can be alone, undistracted and consistent.  Let your family know what you are doing so they can support your efforts.

You will probably need more than 60 seconds for a profitable AWG…but you don’t need an hour.  Start with 15 minutes until it becomes a pattern.  Then increase as you have opportunity.  Initially it may seem like you are performing a duty rather than personally meeting with the Lord.  But once you master the mechanics, your focus will become your relationship with Christ rather than filling in an outline.  At that point your AWG changes from being a duty to an absolute delight.

As you develop your ear to hear from God, you will find it easier to share your whiteboard experience with others as well.

Reflection:

  1. What is a next step for you to become consistent in a daily AWG
  2. What obstacles will you face?  How will you overcome them?

TADB 002: Discipleship adventure: Quest or Trip?

In 1804 Lewis and Clark with about four dozen men set out from St. Louis for the west coast of the expanding America.  Commissioned by President Jefferson they were tasked with the mission to explore and discover an economical means of travel through the recently acquired Louisiana Purchase.  Secondary purposes included mapping the territory, extending American influence, and making scientific discoveries.

Accomplishing their mission, the party returned to St Louis in 1806.  Along the way they made friends (and enemies), “took pictures”, collected samples, and explored the amazing beauty of deserts, mountains, and rivers.  But upon returning the men took up life basically where they had left off….other than having some great memories and a bigger scrapbook, life was the same.

Several decades later another group of men and women also left St. Louis for the west coast.  Commonly called pioneers, these people had a different mission.  They sold all they had, left the comforts of 1840s modernity, and headed west for a new life.  With the transcontinental railroad still a couple of decades away, they had no plans for returning to their old life.  It was a one-way ticket through the unknown to realize a dream.  A dream created by both fact and fiction motivated people to risk all they had and to invest in this epic adventure.  Those that made the arduous journey were never the same.

The Lewis party made a trip (a vacation with excitement).  But for those early pioneers, it was more than a trip, it was a quest.   The 1678 classic Christian allegory, Pilgrim’s Progress written by John Bunyan (not related to Paul), tells of another adventure that was a quest rather than a trip.  The story follows Christian, the main character, along his journey to the Celestial City.  Along the way he encountered various adventures that change him forever and prepared him for his final destination.

The adventure of discipleship is a quest, a journey of no return.  Along the way we will face multiple challenges, gaze at amazing vistas, and encounter unexpected opportunities …and we’ll never be the same.  We are not coming back to where we started.  It is an adventure of unexpected discovery, primarily of the One who placed the vertical heavenly tug on our hearts (Ecc. 3:11).

Authentic discipleship is not a course we take or a scrapbook we make.  It is not something we complete and move on to the next challenge.  The great Rabbi, Yahshua, has invited us to leave the comforts of the familiar, sell all we have, buy a Conestoga wagon, band together with a group of fellow pioneers, and head west.  With our confidence in Christ as our guide, we need never look back.  Along the way we will likely realize that we have taken too much luggage.  Much that we initially thought essential will be abandoned.  Its stuff that no longer fits who we are and where we are going.  And we won’t miss it.

The invitation Jesus made to those initial fishermen along the Sea of Galilee still stands. “Follow Me” is an ongoing invitation to every generation to join the quest (Matt. 4:19)

Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus….I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus (Phil. 3:12, 14).

Reflection:

  1. In what other ways does thinking of discipleship as a quest change your mental picture?
  1. What are the implications of seeing discipleship with a “trip” mentality?

TADB 001: Your Discipleship Portrait

What picture of discipleship hangs in the gallery of your mind?

“Words are stupid things, it’s meaning that counts”.  Words are simply containers into which each of us packs meaning and mental pictures.  Conversation uses shared words but communication involves shared meanings.  The degree that words carry common meanings determines the level of communication.  We have all had the experience of using words to explain our idea to another person only to find out later that what we thought we said was not what the other person heard or understood.

This challenge in communication exists even when we speak the same language, in the same culture, and in the same time period.  Consider the exponential complexity when using words translated from a different language, culture, and era.

This is the challenge we face in understanding what Jesus meant when he gave his followers the invitation to be his disciples and the command to make disciples.  The word disciple is a common term in the Gospels but not in our current culture so we must draw from biblical history and not our current culture if we are to understand what Jesus meant when he used the term.  Since discipleship forms the core of our life with Christ, it seems a pretty important concept to wrestle with.

In 2016 The Navigators asked the Barna organization to do a study on the state of discipleship in America.  In the published results the opening statement succinctly states the problem.  “A critical component of this study is to define “discipleship”.  The concept is familiar to many, but a widely accepted definition remains elusive.”

Our concept of discipleship, like many others concepts, hangs in the gallery of our minds.  This gallery is the “cognitive unconscious” part of our brains that acts as a filter whenever we get new information.  The picture is fairly ridged allowing us to accept, reject, or modify new information rapidly depending on how well it fits our current picture.  To alter the existing picture we must first bring it down from the unconscious gallery and consciously wrestle with it in the workroom of our mind.  Only then can we hang it back up with the possibility of real life change.  This is the “renewing of our minds” process that Paul refers to in Romans 12:2.

I would like to invite you to take down the picture of discipleship that is currently hanging in the gallery of your mind and reexamine it.  The purpose of this blog is to give you some fresh perspective with which to examine your picture of discipleship.  My desire is to be catalytic, at times affirming as well as challenging.

I have been on this journey of discipleship for over 50 years, wrestling with what it means to be a disciple and how to “make” disciples.  I have led discipleship ministries on university campuses, in the military, in churches, and in the marketplace and I am still learning what authentic discipleship looks like.  Discipleship is an adventure, one from which we will never recover.  I invite you to join me on this journey, together making our picture of discipleship more biblical and authentic.

Think about…

  1. What is your current picture of discipleship that hangs in the gallery of your mind?
  1. Did you paint the picture or was it borrowed?
  1. How much of your picture comes from cultural Christianity and how much from Scripture?